“The Lord Restored My Marriage”
So he said to me, “This is the word of the LORD to Zerubbabel: ‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the LORD Almighty.
Chris B. writes:
For many years as a Christian I found myself striving to have a Godly marriage and home in the flesh. My husband was a very angry man and abusive in many ways, leaving me lonely and angry. After twenty-five years of striving, I gave up trying to be the best wife and left my husband. I stayed away for two years, even divorcing him from my bitterness. I was Biblically justified, but I did not have peace.
The Lord called me back to my husband who was a believer, but had not been yielding to the Lord for many years. After I left, he turned to the Lord fully and truly submitted his life to Jesus. I was at a point where I knew the Lord wanted me to go back, but I wanted a guarantee that he had changed and our life would be better. I felt that I could not trust my husband enough to love him again, but the Lord promised if I would but yield to Him, He would love my husband through me. In much fear and trembling, I returned to a relationship that had before only given me heart-break and pain, but God in His infinite mercy and power kept His promise and kindled a new and heartfelt love for the man that had been my enemy for so many years. We have been back together for ten years, and although it has not been perfect, we have an honest and loving relationship. We now do Christian marriage counseling in our church and encourage others that all things are possible with God’s Spirit and His power if we will only trust and obey His leading.
Please note that the views expressed in this story are not necessarily the views of the American Bible Society. Story posted on October 27th, 2006 and filed under Your Stories, Divorce & Marital Conflict.
October 30th, 2006 at 3:21 am
I FOUND THIS SITE BY ACCIDDENT, OR MAY BE IT IS GOD WAY OF SENDING ME A MESSAGE. MY PARENTS ARE DIVORCED, AND IT HAS EFFECTED THE WHOLE FAMILY, THIS MESSAGE HAS ENCOURAGED ME TO READ MY BIBLIE, RESTORING MY FAITH, THERE IS HOPE.
GOD BLESS YOU
VERNA
December 28th, 2006 at 9:14 am
I received confirmation from reading this…My husband was verbally and physically abusive and abandoned me and my one year old son, while pregnant w/my daughter.
He left with a woman that says she was sent to him by God and he filed for divorce last year. There have been a lot of issues since they moved here and he refuses to pay child support and alimony.
We were both active in ministry and after we received our promise (1st child) the enemy lured him away through drugs, alcohol, sex, etc…
Please pray that my husband will be released from the enemy’s influence and he will be the man that God called him to be. I know that God is revealing to me to continue to pray and not give up. He will deliver us speedily….
January 20th, 2007 at 2:13 am
I have been married for 7yrs, but 3yrs ago my husband began to fall into temptation. The path he ventured down was not very inviting to a family, so he abandoned me and our 3 children. It was out of desperation that I personally turned to the Lord for peace, love, understanding… but received so much more than I could of hoped for. The Lord carried me through, mended my heart and maid it whole. He delivered me from the shame,bitterness, anger… I prayed for the gift of patience and also received mercy and grace too. I held on to my marriage as hard as I could. Things would be wonderful, but fall apart. And I would hold on even harder, but things would get worse. There even came moments where I put my salvation on the line. For 2yrs the struggle of surrender graced our lives. I prayed for God to redeem and restore my husband, to bring him to his knees any way it took. I also prayed to be released from my marriage, I thought I deserved better. I was very confused, had little faith, and broken hearted. The Lord kept telling me turn to me, have faith in me, surrender. And I did. Then he told me to stand firm and be still and get out of the way. And I did. So many things happened I would Love to go into full details. My husband is now in prison were the Lord continued pursuing him and beckoning him. There he was with no where to hide, no where to run, no way out on his knees (literally) in surrender. The awesome thing is, so was I. God took me to my knees too. We both from that point on have a new desperation in our hearts, to build a personal relationship with God, who comes first in our lives. Through all this I can say God is good and I have been blessed. The Lord has delivered us into his glory. Just the other day my husband led me to a scripture in the Bible that he says is the way he sees and thinks of me proverbs 31:10-31 How awesome! thank you Jesus for being the way and the light.
February 6th, 2007 at 11:06 am
i am going to leave my husband. i have been married for 2.7 years and have been separated twice due to his drinking, and physical and verbal abuse. I led my spouse to the Lord one week after we were married and I guess I thought that would solve all our problems, but it did not. He continued to struggle with alcohol and drugs but this month he will have been sober 1.9 years. He is a leader in Celebrate Recovery over the mens chemical dependency class and is very involved with church. But at home it is totally different. He lies to me about things, well, does them and tells me later. He does not seem to want to call me or tell me where he is or what he is doing. Even though I know there is no signs of infidelity, he just has a hard time being honest. He constantly criticizes me about everything along with the lying and I have finally grown tired of it. I want out. He and I being married i really believe is hindering my walk with the Lord. I have been through so much already in this marriage with the alcohol and drugs and abuse and I just cannot take it anymore. This is my first marriage and it has been horrible for the most part, he has a major problem with pride, he will never admit he is wrong, he either blames me or justifies what he does. I no longer want to talk about it, I just want out. I have even asked God to harden my heart where he is concerned because I am tired of being my husband’s personal punching bag!!!!!!!! please pray for me!
February 19th, 2007 at 4:28 pm
I read your stories and I too am encouraged. I was just searching the net and it seemed that the Lord also led me to this site. I have been struggling in my marriage for the past 7 years. There has been good times but more bad than I care to disclose. The past three years, I believe my husband has been having an affair. I am getting phone calls from a woman who, at first, would only hold the phone. Now, she is saying things and I believe she has been to my house. I have to admit that my faith has been a little shaken by this. Wondering what I really did to deserve this but I know that this is a test of my faith. I, too, have asked God to bring my husband to his knees. I am so angry and hurt by his actions. The way he treats me and then lies to my face. I trust and believe that God will work it out. Although I want children, I am sort of glad there are no children involved. I just ask God to continue to guide and change me so I can endure. I also ask that God heals me and I forgive my husband for what he has done to not just me but God. He took vows and has broken them.
February 22nd, 2007 at 3:22 pm
Jan, it is so sad to hear about your marriage situation and the abuse you are experiencing. You may want to take a look at our crisis information page and contact a relevant agency. We’re praying for you!
March 12th, 2007 at 8:03 pm
I, too, am in a difficult set of circumstances in my marriage. But the Lord has made me some promises concerning my marriage and I plan to collect. Please everyone, stand for your marriages. I know it’s hard, I know you’re in pain. I know you are being unloved and disrespected. But God is still able to do the impossible. During this time of standing, I discovered www.rejoiceministries.org. The founding couple divorced due to adultery and the Lord convinced the wife to begin to pray and stand for the restoration of her husband and marriage. After two years, they remarried and have been together ever since. I encourage all of us to obey God and stand. Not only will he change our husbands and draw them closer to Him, through these trying times God will draw us closer to Him as well.
March 26th, 2007 at 5:25 pm
Chris, thank you for your testimony. It directs us to the Lord so that He can love our mates through us. It is a powerful story of Jesus’ overcoming love that can heal any devastation, in His way and His time.
Also, Monique, you give some good advice. I too have been very blessed by www.rejoiceministries.org because they use the Bible so much in teaching people about God’s faithfulness, power and commitment to people and their families. When todays’ family is under such onslaught from the evil one, using all manner of attacks, it is helpful to have a beacon of light re: restoration and how God might do such a thing. The testiomonies alone have deeply blessed me and give glory to the Lord.
For a long time, I did not realize that God could heal the hurts of abandonment, adultery, addictions, and abuse. Today I know that His power and forgiveness, along with His commands, can steer a couple or a wounded mate to healing from any kind of devastation. But God!
Bless you all as you walk with the Lord through your difficult circumstances.
June 21st, 2007 at 1:29 pm
PLEASE…Do not get divorced. I had a VERY difficult 20 year marriage and finally succumbed to smoking pot and drinking with my husband and his friends in the 18th year. My husband had withheld affection, and been verbally abusive since early in the marriage. Well..I had a brief fling with one of his friends, and the abuse got worse. No forgiveness. We were divorced 2 years later. That was 10 years ago. God HATES divorce. PLEASE…yield your life to God and make him FIRST in your life. I know HE can do miracles. I’m still praying that HE will touch my ex-husband’s heart and that my ex-husband will truly let Jesus be the Lord of his life. I don’t know if my ex-husband will ever forgive me or love me again. But..I and my ex-husband still carry a broken heart to this day. The only true healing is to make God FIRST in your life, accept HIS forgiveness and love, and then forgive and love all those in your life who have ever hurt you. I’m not saying this is easy. My mother was murdered by my step-father. I had to forgive him, too. Remember, Christ DIED for our sins. God loves us THAT much. May God bless all of you who read this. (And I wouldn’t mind a prayer or two sent my way-Thank you.)
July 4th, 2007 at 4:55 am
I have been hounded practically weekly with an emotionally abusive husband who hates hisself and every one around Him, especially me-He really gets much worse the deeper I get with my walk in the Lord-He seems to be jealous of the Lord and my holiness always mocking it-it is amazing how Satan can use Him as a mouthpiece to continually test me, and when I fall from frustration and yell back He says very very mockingly and your a christian!!! I believe His eary adultery in our marriage gives me the right to divorce-I just wonder if I should ever marry again or would that be considered adultery as well? I am asking God to intervene in this, will you gather in prayer for me so that I can have some place in this world for refresmant and to be built up and honored in Love for my works sake for Christ our Dear Lord and Saviour.-Terri
August 8th, 2007 at 4:30 pm
I feel uplifted with the stories i have read. My husband and I are now divorced after being married for 3 yrs. I married a man from our church he was a good man but my pastor did not like him. I married him in spite of the fact that he objected. My husband was a believer. But one day we had a minor problem and I went to pastor for guidance and he started to tell me that my husband was not any good that he was not for me that he was less of a person becasue of education, background, economic levels and started to attack my husband from the pulpit
with words. i went on for the most part of my marriage, it finally lead to my divorce which was approved by him. he never once in my 3 years of marriage ever say you should work on your marriage, never!!!! he wanted me by myself becasue he told me when your alone you give more, you provide me and the church your money and your vehicle for the use of the church and I am going to pray so that you stay alone!!! it really hit home and I started to realize that this pastor was not in anyway doing the work of God in trying to restore my marriage but to separate me from my spouse. I have moved churches and my now former spouse is going as well. I am hoping that the Lord restores my marriage even if I am divorce at this time, I have faith that the Lord never intended for me to leave my husband, He has been a good man that felt betrayed by the God he served thru his servant our pastor and had left the church a while back. please pray for us and I hope that all that have written here get thier prayers answered….God Bless
September 6th, 2007 at 4:33 pm
I ran across this website while surfing on the Internet for a resource to share with a friend who has a friend who needs to be reminded of the importance of putting her marriage before outside ministry.
The story I read was: The Lord Restored My Marriage. I have been married since November 2004 and am currently separated pending divorce (I filed August 2007). I ended up marrying a man who had an alcohol addiction and other personal and family problems associated with generational curses.
In the beginning, I saw that he drank but did not know to what extent until it was too late. I can now admit and say honestly that I married while my self-esteem was at a very low point and as a result, I attracted what I was and not what I wanted or needed to be. I endured excessive drinking, drug usage, pornography addiction, and various types of abuse. I filed TPO’s with the court in my county on two occasions but never went to court because I allowed myself to be persuaded to let my husband back in our home and my life.
It has been over one year since I have been separated from my husband, but I have no way to verify that there really has been a significant and positive change in his life. Because I cannot forget what I endured, I have NO TRUST for my husband. I waited, prayed, read the Word — and was praying for reconcilation.
After I got tired because I was not seeing anything consistent, I asked the Lord to deliver my husband or deliver me. The times I spoke by telephone with my husband, his conversation was never CONSISTENT and he seemed erratic. My position was that if he couldn’t take care of himself without calling me about this or that, how could he take care of us both? It seemed that he was always working on something or planning something big that never seemed to happen or things would fall through. Sometimes he would curse at me on the phone or tell me I was too old for him (there is a significant age difference). When I lived with my husband, he was good at deception to get what he wanted for himself or us both on occasion. Telling the truth was not one of his positive traits.
Considering the abuse that I suffered, sometimes I still think about the things I experienced and thank God for delivering me by taking him out of the home. Although God could be working in his life since the separation, I do not miss him nor do I have a desire to live with him again. I was guilty of co-dependency and enabling and had to make some changes to STOP these damaging practices. I believe that by remaining married to him, I will give him a false hope about our relationship when I really do not know if he really has changed. At this time, a reunion with him would not insure a better marital relationship than what we had before the separation; therefore, I feel at peace to go through with this divorce.
In conclusion I must share what I have learned in this matter: 1. Divorce is really the death of a relationship and it hurts both parties regardless of who files or who is at fault. (Although I feel love for my husband, I must not neglect loving me unlike the previous years. I must remember that this divorce is a process and I must be strong and NOT COMPROMISE my beliefs and trust in God to see me through to the end.) 2. I believe this wonderful story about a RESTORED MARRIAGE has been encouraging to many and God obviously wanted me to know that He is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that I would ask or think . . . OBEDIENCE is the key to success in God but it is not always convenient, comfortable or pain-free.
I have committed this entire matter to the Lord. This marriage was not birthed of God but out of the flesh and unfortunately the lifespan has been short. If it is God’s will for me and my husband to ever be husband and wife again, He can and will restore this marriage at His appointed time. We both share a gift that could be used for the Kingdom of God. When God’s people decide to seek the Institution of Marriage, they should be seeking more than a bed partner but consider most importantly how they can and should serve God with their future spouse.
God bless you readers of this website. Peace to you all and grace be multiplied.
September 6th, 2007 at 11:15 pm
Hello, my name is Rick, and I have been saved now for 5 months. The problem is that last year my wife told me she wasn’t in love with me anymore and wanted out.
As a new Christian I really took this hard. I have been praying for restoration and leaving everything in God’s hands. She tells me that even though she notices a change in me, she still wants a divorce.
My wife has been serving God faithfully for the past 15 yrs. out of our 18 yr. marriage. Why must I be tested so soon? I am still a baby in the Lord with such big problems.
This site has given me hope that the Lord can restore my marriage, even though it may seem impossible. All things are possible for God.
I don’t understand why she doesn’t love me. I’m a great father to our 3 children. I miss her greatly. Even though she is still in the house with us, it feels like I’m a stranger to her. Please pray for us.
September 11th, 2007 at 11:04 pm
Here I am writing to you guys again. The topic is my marriage has gone from bad to worse in a couple of weeks. Why is it as a new Christian I have to go through all this?
Let’s begin by saying my wife was a God-fearing woman for many years. Just recently she does not seek God like she used to. I miss my wife so much. I have always been there for them — my children can vouch for what a great dad I am. The problem has been with my wife: she is no longer in love with me, she doesn’t even care that I’m a Christian now.
October 20th, 2007 at 9:50 am
Hi..i truly know now that God heals marriages…He is perfect and all thing shall be one in His perfect time..not in ours…remember..believe in Him without seeing… my marriage is now changed..my husband changed his hard heart…now and i’m waiting in God’s promises…
Love u
Paula C
January 23rd, 2008 at 11:48 am
TO RICK, AND ALL WHO ARE SUFFERING FROM A BROKEN MARRIAGE: WAIT ON THE LORD, BECAUSE HE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN HEAL YOU, YOUR SPOUSE, AND REPAIR YOUR MARRIAGE. SOMETIMES WE DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY A SEPARATION HAPPENS, BUT GOD DOES. GOD WANTS YOU BY YOURSELF SO THAT HE CAN WORK ON YOU. YOU HAVE A PAST, AND YOU ALSO HAVE FAULTS THAT NEED WORK. NO ONE COMES INTO A RELATIONSHIP PERFECT. WE BRING ALL SORTS OF PAST HURTS, WORRY, SORROW INTO A MARRIAGE, AND YOUR SPOUSE DOES TOO. WHEN WE BRING PLETHORA OF BAGGAGE TO THE TABLE, AND NOT TALKING EVERYTHING OUT BEFORE WE GET MARRIED, NATURALLY YOU WILL ARGUE. COME ON, DON’T SAY IN YOUR HEAD THAT YOU DID THIS, BECAUSE IF YOU TOLD YOUR SPOUSE EVERYTHING, I MEAN YOUR WEAKNESS, AND STRENGTHS, YOU WOULDN’T BE MARRIED TO EACH OTHER!! HOW DO I KNOW THIS? I AM SEPARATED FROM MY HUSBAND TOO, FOR FOUR YEARS NOW. I WAS AN ALCOHOLIC, SMOKED ALMOST A PACK OF CIGARETTES A DAY, AND SPENT MONEY LIKE IT WAS GOING OUT OF STYLE, JUST TO FILL A VOID THAT I WASN’T GETTING IN MY MARRIAGE. I ALSO WASN’T SAVED. MY HAIRDRESSER LED ME TO THE LORD ON NEW YEAR’S EVE. GOD WILL USE ANYONE TO GET YOUR ATTENTION. EVER SINCE THEN, I CAN TELL YOU THAT MY LIFE CHANGED SO MUCH, MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS CANNOT BELIEVE IT. I NOW KNOW WHAT I AM SUPPOSED TO BE DOING IN GOD’S KINGDOM, STOPPED SMOKING, DRINKING, AND CUT THE SPENDING. GOD SENDS PEOPLE TO YOU USING THEM AS VESSELS TO MOLD, SHAPE,AND CORRECT. MOST OF US HAVEN’T HAD ANYONE CORRECT US IN YEARS. WE FIGURE SINCE WE ARE ADULTS, WE DON’T NEED CORRECTING. YOU DO. IF YOU RICK, DON’T HAVE A MENTOR IN YOUR LIFE, GET ONE, BECAUSE YOU NEED TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE FOR YOUR ACTIONS. THIS WILL BE SOMEONE IN YOUR CHURCH, OR SOMEONE THAT KNOWS YOU WELL…AND WHEN THEY CORRECT YOU, DON’T GET ANGRY, THEY ARE TELLING YOU THE TRUTH ABOUT YOURSELF. DON’T WORRY - YOU’LL GET USED TO THE CORRECTION SO MUCH, YOU START TO APPRECIATE IT. WELL, I HOPE THAT THIS SCRIPTURE WILL HELP YOU, FROM PROVERBS 3:5-6: TRUST THE LORD YOUR GOD AND LEAN NOT ON YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING. IN ALL YOUR WAYS ACKNOWLEDGE HIM, AND HE WILL MAKE YOUR PATHS STRAIGHT. GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU.
March 15th, 2008 at 6:16 pm
You wrote: I was Biblically justified, but I did not have peace.
Matthew 19 allows for divorce in the event of adultery. Did your husband commit adultery? 1 Cor 7:15 allows the unbeliever to divorce the believer, but vs 10 and 11 forbid a believer the option of divorce (from an unbeliever). Those together mean no divorce except for adultery. And also that believers who divorce believers ARE NOT TO ENTER into a second marriage.
March 20th, 2008 at 3:30 pm
I am a babe in Christ, I have been married for 15 years and can’t recall ever being happy on a consistent basis. My wife and I have 2 children, 1 with a disability that really requires 2 people to be responsible for him. The relationship between my wife and oldest son isn’t that great as well. They constantly argue about whatever topic that is being discussed. My wife has wanted a divorce on and off for the majority of our marriage. She has had an affair within the first 5 years of the marriage, and has flirted with a couple of different men throughout. I know you may be wonder why I didn’t leave. I really did want to leave. I recall praying to God asking if it was ok for me to do so. The strange thing is, the answer was an overwhelmingly NO. I remember going outside smoking a cigerrette coming back in and turning the TV on, and a preacher was discussing Forgiveness as the topic. I remember immediatly turning the TV off stating I don’t beleive this. Her and I talked for a little while about the matter, and I turned the TV on again, and changed the channel. There was another reveren on talking about the exact same topic. I knew at that point that our heavenly father wanted me to forgive my wife. Even though it was a hard thing to do I told her that I forgive her, and love her. The reality though was I had a lot of questions as to why. This why question went on for about another 2 years. Trust was gone. I even thought about leaving because my heart felt so heavy with anger and resistment. God constantly had me remember my wedding Vows. I used to think and say to GOD, she didn’t. In turn he would then say your vows were also a promise to me as well as her. We tried counseling of different kinds, and the reality is they work for awhile, and then something happens and we are right back at it again wanting a divorce. Just recently she has said, she wanted one again. I noticed that this time I didn’t have the strength to jump through hoops to prove my love for her. It has gotten so bad that she told my odldest son that we were getting a divorce, which we had agreed to do together. The reason why I am sharing this is becasue I am hoping that my message inspires others to Steedfast and hold on. This is the point when I dropped to my knees and asked God, why do I always have to go through this with this woman who I know I love. you ready for the answer. Here it is. Even though I am a Babe in christ, this is what I found out. I have always worshiped my wife like she was everything to me. My goal was to do whatever would make her happy, even before my own happiness. what I have learned as a babe in christ is that He comes first before all things and all people. You see God has asked us to put him first, and when we don’t do so, he has other ways to make us seek him. Even though I am going through it still. I have had more revelation about my situation than ever. This is what I found out. God does not like divorce, he does not like us to put anything or anyone including family before him, he gives us time to submitt our will for his, and if we don’t he will bring you closer to him. Beleive me everything that we as people are going through in our marriage is all to put more focus on Him. We all know by now what the Bible says about divorce. We all at one point beleived that its our spouse that needs to change. This is for the men out there. You can Change your marriage by changing you first. You are the head, and if the order is messed up, then your body (family) will be out of cink. This is Gods order Him first, man second, women third, and children last. So in other words fellows make sure you first have excepted Jesus Christ in your life, and are reading the bible to see what is required of Man/husband/Father of christ to do to restore your marriage. Seek His face, and have faith in his word. Stay strong and know that all things work for the greater good of our heavenly father. He wil answer your prayers if you give your life to him With many love and blessing. I hope this helps
May 14th, 2008 at 10:35 am
I have been divorced for 3 1/2 years now. My husband had many affairs. When i found out he started abusing me mentaly and physically. I sometimes wonder if I should have stayed married to him because I know God doesn’t like divorces. I couldn’t stay with a husband who was starting to become abusive. We have two children 7 and 9. It breaks my heart to see them go through this. He mentally abuses them and has physically abused them also. He use to not be like this. Since he has got involved with sex and pornography He has gotten way worse. He is out to hurt me at whatever cost. I’m afraid that he will take my children away from me. He comes from a famly with money. My children fear that that will happen. They fear their father and so do I. My question is why do I still love this man. We would have been married 15 years this year. I sometimes ask God why? Why have you allowed this to happen to me? What have I done?
Why? I have prayed for my ex but i fall short alot. I don’t have anymore faith. I guess with what he has done and continues doing to me and my children it’s like why pray when he continues reeping. I know God doesn’t want me to have this attitude but it is so hard. Satan continues attacking me telling me God doesn’t exists. If he did he would not allow this to happen to you. I know God does exist. I have asked God to take the love out of my heart for my ex but it is still there. I still want to think the Old ron is still inside somewhere. Please pray for me and my children. Please pray that my children will be able to move to another school where we live. I can’t affored to drive back and forth. Please keep us in your prayers. I ask you this in the name of Jesus
June 3rd, 2008 at 10:00 am
As in a previous post, though divorce is allowed in two cases (when the UNbeliever wants to leave and when a partner commits adultery the innocent spouse is allowed divorce), but what of abuse? The word is not clear on this, but there are precedents in scripture to follow. No one should stay in an abusive relationship, but rather get out through separation not mean divorce. Separation is the key here.
The word says “come out from among them,” and “be separate” referring to unbelievers. So applying this in cases of abuse means to be separated. It does not mean divorce. So one would understand that an innocent spouse should separate to prevent abuse, to themselves, to the children. Separate and leave the abuser alone and turn them over to G-d.
Even in terms of adultery (Matt 19) there is an over riding principle in scripture, forgiveness. If the one in adultery is not in a lifestyle of adultery, and is repentant, they should be forgiven. Must be. G-d said he would not forgive us if we do not forgive our brothers, so if a brother or sister in Messiah sins in adultery and is genuinely repentant, we have to forgive and reconcile. When two believers are married, or two unbelievers, the believer is commanded to NOT divorce, so that makes reconciliation following repentance very important to G-d.
If the believer who sins is living in a lifestyle of sin and does not desire to repent or reconcile, we are allowed (Matt 19) to divorce them. More important than what is allowed is the testimony of the Word, of Yeshua Hamashiach (Jesus Christ) before a lost world. Of what profit would insistence on divorce be to us if our lives paint a picture identical to the world? That is however, the picture that Christians give to the world.
Though divorce rates are really only 20 to 30% (not the much quoted 50%) Christians are a much higher percentage of that smaller amount than the world. In other words, Christian’s divorce rates are higher than the world? Why? Because of unrepentance, unforgiveness, and hardness of heart. Though one could understand divorce for adultery IF THE ADULTERER is unrepentant in their adultery, it is not G-d’s perfect will.
He is calling us to be salt and light. Though my wife divorce me against my will, and though I tried to move on (a grievous error I admit to) it is clear from scripture that forgiveness and the testimony of faith in Yeshua is the MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR. The acronmy WWJD is more than four letters, it means to act as the L-rd would act, to live in faith as He lived in faith. So I remain single and no longer seek to move on (defined as ‘date,’ or find a new mate) because He has commanded me to love.
I am believing for a miracle in Yeshua. His love is greater than the world, the flesh, or the devil.
October 29th, 2008 at 8:41 am
My husband and I have been separated for 2 years, his name is Joe Faria and he is a lovely person. We have been married for 36 years this Nov 2008 and I am asking that you pray that our marriage will be restored for our wedding anniversary which is on the 25th Nov 2008. We have four children, 3 are grown up and they are great children, the last son is in his second last year of high school and he is a great boy. He needs his father in his life, so please pray that God will touch his heart to return to us. We love him very much and he so deserves our love,he is confused and I believe the enemy is working on him. He says he does not live with another women but there is a women living in the house, it is her house, he says she is just a friend and its a roof over his head and its cheap. I want to believe him that this is true but only God knows. So please pray if there is anything else between them that God will break it. Please also pray that I find the strength and patience to stand for my marriage until God restores it to the loving and trusting marriage. Thank you and God bless you and all of you who are standing for your marriage. Angela
December 17th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
My husband of 22 years has been living with another woman for the past 10 months. I have been standing for my marriage, this entire time. I have 2 daughters who’s lives have really been affected, their grades have been affected and their relationship with their dad has been affected. Please pray that the Lord will put a hedge of thorns around my husband, and that this other woman will lose interest & depart their relationship. Please also pray that my husband will return home to restore our marriage in the next couple of months. God Bless!